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A Brief Guide to Personality Development
“Our personality is a combination of Our values, thoughts, words, and deeds, and takes flight through our knowledge, volition, and action.”
What is Personality? ………………………………………………………………….. 4
Your Spoken Image……………………………………………………………………… 5-6
Tips to Improve Your Spoken Image……………………………………………. 7
Your Written Image…………………………………………………………………….. 8-9
Business Written Tips.………………………………………………………………… 10
Your Appearance………………………………………………………………………… 11
Your Get and Manners………………………………………………………………. 12-13
Personal Quality………………………………………………………………………… 14
Management of Self………………………………………………………………….. 15
The BUT & AND Brigade…………………………………………………………….. 16
The personality Page…………………………………………………………………. 17-18
What Is Personality?
Personality means “the complex of all the attributes-behavioral, temperamental, emotional and mental-that characterizes a unique individual”.
It is:
- The quality or condition of being person.
- The totality of qualities and traits, as of character or behavior, that are peculiar to a specific person.
- The pattern of collective character, behavioral, temperamental, emotional and mental traits of a person: Though their personalities differed they got along as friends.
- Distinctive qualities of a person, especially those distinguishing personal characteristics that make one socially appealing: won the election more on personality than on capability.
It summarizes:
Your spoken and written image
Your appearance
Your gait and manners
Your perceptions and discerning qualities
Your analytical and negotiating skills
Your management of self, people and situation
Your spoken and written image
What is your Spoken Image?
Have you considered the importance or impact of your personality in your personal and professional lives?
“You are what you say”
Let’s Find Out?
- Do you convince people easily?
Well, if you convince someone easily it may be because you offer logic and you are prepared with your points.
- Do you irritate people easily?
If you irritate people easily it may be because you become defensive, bullish and gossip at time.
- Are you judgmental?
Well, it’s probably because as a judgmental person you come to conclusions first and makes up a case later.
- Do you forgive and forget?
If you do, you are a person who forgives forgets can concentrate on today and focus on the right things rather than be worked up on small issues.
- Are others’ perceptions important to you?
Well, then you have to realize that, need to understand that we cannot change anyone’s perceptions but we can influence him or her to a certain extent. People who work with us, live with us every day, their perceptions are important to us, your boss’s perception, co-worker’s perception, parents perceptions are an example of perceptions which should be important in our social and professional setups.
- Are you habitual cribber?
This often stems out from the fact that, habitual cribber is someone who finds time out complain and nag about things which do not go their way and often have their views prejudiced with their own experiences.
- Do you people ignore you?
Some people feel ignored in bigger groups and many times they are the loudest, most boisterous or most cynical of them all. Deep down they have their insecurities playing havoc.
Always remember that:
In a professional conversation – Speak where it is beneficial, pursue when the time right, fight for a cause that is worthy to you, be assertive without being aggressive and know when it is time to remain silent.
Always remember humor may be his cup of tea, but not yours, so suit your own style.
Tips to improve your Spoken Image
- Never be too timid or too brash, it is always good to follow a middle path.
- Never start with a verdict, always build up your case.
- Give reasons, offer logic not emotions.
- Abandon a conversation that is getting argumentative.
- Never take things personally or speak the same way.
Your Written Image
- Do you write realizing that there is recall value?
How often have you kept Emails, text messages that were nice and had crying thoughts in them so that one fine day you could check them and smile back? It brings back fond memories. Some make you smile, a few make you wonder and yet some make you frown these are probably vicious texts and rude emails you received which you must have kept as a reminder. It could probably be to remind you of the incident so that you would be more careful in the future.
Well, one has to remember that a Written Image always has a Recall Value. You need to be careful when you pen down your thoughts. If written with a good intention, it will always stay as fond memory OR it will always leave a scar if written with a negative intention. Remember, people may forget words but they remember emails and letters every time they look at the archives.
- Do you write knowing that mistakes are inevitable of the smallest nature?
How often do you write and forget to spell check.? If you are in hurry and you are addressing a letter to a “Dear friend” …..Oh well, you have not checked for an error in the spelling. It was to a “Dear friend”, but allas that’s not what it reads.
Identify the mistakes in the sentence below:
- I hereby hand over a check dated Jan 25.
- I will cut a check as soon as I receive your invoice.
- We have built a generator room at the backside of the building.
- I want to plan ahead or the conference.
- I am afraid I cannot hand over data sooner.
- I am having a headache over these figures.
- The partake of the fruit which is central to the Adam and Eve story prevents the much touted healer from approaching the dwelling place.
- Make a perforation at the apex of an egg and a corresponding one at the base. Then by forcibly inhaling the atmospheric gaseous presence through one of the perforations the egg is almost nearly discharged of its content.
Business Written Tips
Here are few business writing tips you need to remember to be that Customer Service Professional everyone would want to work with:
- Write in fewer words, conciseness is the key.
- Do not use spoken English in written conversation.
- Do a manual spell check even if you have run system provided spell check.
- Use active phrases unless the doer is not important.
Your Appearance
Mirror, Mirror: The Importance of looks in Everyday Life.
- Appearance can impress even if you are not an Adonis or Venus.
- Professional dressing helps others take you seriously.
- Your dress and grooming may affect your relationship you from at work because dress extremes may attract some people, but turn others off.
- Ensure good personal hygiene standards.
- Do not be finicky or self-possessed in the name of appearance.
- Knowing that your appearance is good may give you confidence, and self-confidence is essential if you are going to make a positive impression.
Basic steps to grooming
Aside from the physical aspects of personality (like perfect hygiene; simple, neat and decent dress sense; frequent use of deodorants and perfumes), one can also develop shining inner qualities that impress and endear others.
- Invest in quality wardrobe (light tropical weight wools, silk/linen blends, and cotton).
- Tailor your wardrobe to your body and to the event. (Business, smart-casual)
- Practice a firm, full handshake with three-second eye contact and a smile for both men and women.
- Update your hairstyle and hair color (if desired).
- Update your eyewear to match your facial shape.
- Re-evaluate your clothing selections for best color co-ordination based on your hair, skin and eye color.
Gait and Manners
Meat makes, and clothes shapes, but manners make a man. … Scottish Proverb.
Say “Plz” when you are asking for something
Say “Thank you” when you are given something
Say “Excuse me” when passing by someone
Practice good table manners
Say “I’m sorry” if you’ve hurt someone
You can Impress and Convince:
Carry yourself confidently on your legs, not like your legs are doing a favor by carrying you.
- Behave with dignity and poise; try mimicking a celebrity for effect.
- Make a statement with your body language.
- Show humility, not cowardice.
- Exhibit generosity, not pettiness.
You cannot control anyone’s perception, but YOU CAN:
Influence them….
Influencing people to the key to convincing them to do things you way.
Understand and read situations….
Reading situation saves the embarrassment of being unprepared for facing any eventuality or group or verdict.
Be Open minded and ready to change….
If you are not open to ideas, you can never learn.
Are you cynical?
Cynicism robs the wonderful capacity in all of us to appreciate the beauty and virtue in things around us.
Let’s add a Touch of Quality
Personal Quality – what is it ??
Personal Quality is nothing but a way of leading a life where you meet up to people’s expectations from you and also ensure that your expectations are met Quality is nothing but “Conformance to Requirements”. Quality is present in every walk of life. One can lead a quality life at home, work or with friends.
What is Stress?
How Can I Eliminate Stress from My Life? Stress is the “wear and tear” our bodies experience as we adjust to our continually changing environment; it has physical and emotional effects on us and can create positive or negative feelings. As a positive influence, stress can help compel us to action; it can result in a new awareness and an exciting new perspective. As a negative influence, it can result in feelings of distrust, rejection, anger, and depression, which in turn can lead to health problems such as headaches, upset stomach, rashes, insomnia, ulcers, high blood pressure, heart disease, and stroke.
As we have seen, positive stress adds anticipation and excitement to life, and we all thrive under a certain amount of stress. Deadlines, competitions, conformations, and even our frustration and sorrows add depth and enrichment to our lives. Our goal is not to eliminate stress but to learn how to manage it and how to use it to help us. Insufficient stress acts as a depressant and may leave us fleeing bored or dejected; on the other hand, excessive stress may leave us fleeing “tied up in knots.”
Personal Quality Checklist:
- Do you communicate your frustrations timely and to the right person?
- Do you take preventive and back up the measure.
- Do you do a root cause analysis?
- Do you have the ability to say “No.?”
- Do you have a “Take it easy…..Everything works” attitude.
Management of Self, Others, and Situations
“The lion does not announce over the addressing system that he is approaching, we feel his presence and flee or bow with respect”———-The Lion King.
Manage yourself:
- Manage your time and priorities.
- Manage your thoughts and emotions.
- Manage your day at work or home.
Manage Others:
- You can actually manage your supervisor.
- You can manage your family to the best of advantage.
- You can manage your peer group and colleagues.
- You can manage how others should think of you.
Manage Situations:
- Read situation to best understand.
- Avoid situation those are too hot for you to handle.
- Escalate situation where you need help ‘before’ you are beyond.
- Walk away from a situation while you still can.
- Triumph over a situation by remaining detached.
The ‘BUT’ & ‘AND’ Brigade
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I want to present my plan BUT my boss is always busy.
I wanted a higher salary BUT the company decided to give me less than what I was drawing previously.
I always wanted to start talking with the colleague I should at BUT he is avoiding talking to me.
I always do all the hard work BUT in the end, no one seems to notice me.
I want to present my plan AND my boss is busy, so I will try discussing it over lunch.
I wanted a higher salary AND the company did not agree, so I have decided to look at other benefits.
I wanted to start talking with the colleague I should at AND he is avoiding me, so I will write him a mail.
I always do all the hard work AND no one seems to notice, so I have decided to present my ideas before the group.
The Personality Page
We all come in different SHAPES and SIZEs
We all have STRENGTHS and weakness.
What’s RIGHT for one person may NOT be right for another.
There are things that are important to ME that you don’t care about at all!
And sometimes YOUR behavior doesn’t make any sense to me.
But I want for us to understand each other, and communicate well,
Because we live together in the same world.
I know I can’t expect you to want the same things that I want.
We are not the same person, so we will not always see things the same way.
I have I own Thoughts and my own Ideas, That may or may not fit into your vision of who I should be.
By learning more about my own Personality, and other Personality Types, I can come to a better understanding of my strengths and weakness.
THE END
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